Having this kind of relationship is really hard and challenging. But don't fear, nothing is impossible when it comes to love. You could get sad and lonely at times and sometimes the distance and different time zone make things unachievable and complicated but are you aware that being far away from your love one make small and simplest things the sweetest? Small wishes could be mean so much more in a long distance relationship. If you really love each other and you think that this person is the only person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Then I strongly believe that its worth to wait and things will work out. Just believe in the power of Love.
The biggest test in a relationship is when two couple become separated with each other for a long period of time. It could be different in seeing someone personally to only seeing your love one status on Facebook and talking to them on Skype, Viber, Tango or any others app that you use. There could be emotional distance, tension, fights and jealousy. Sometimes you want to bawl like babies because you cant see each other in real life. That's sucks right? No wonder why some people don't believe in LDR.
Well, Here are some tips to make your Long Distance Relationship work or even make it better. Take a sit and have time to read this if your also far away from your love one.
1. Trust each other
Trust is the number one strategy for Long Distance Relationship. This is very important for all the relationships not only in the LDR. Before entering in LDR you are aware that both of you cant be together all the time you want and you wont know exactly what your partner doing everyday. But that is not a reason to doubt in your relationship. You just need to be positive and give your entire trust to that person. Avoid interrogating your partner every single time about having a third party, who they meet today or do they talk to somebody and if there's someone new making him/her happy. It's really annoying and irritating that sometimes may lead in to misunderstanding. We don't want that right? Just put to your mind that your partner loves you and no one ever replace you even he/she going to meet a bunch of handsome or beautiful Hollywood star. There 's no such thing as loving and trusting someone.
2. Openness and honesty
Another important thing in any relationship is openness and honesty. It serves a big part of any relationship specially on LDR. You have to be constantly open with each other. Tell your partner what you want and you don't want. You just have to tell everything like your past so that your partner wont be surprise someday when he/she finally knew. Lastly open about your schedule so that you don't have to tell your love one where do you go every single time. Be open and honest with each other. Open up about your problems and experiences. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself.
3. Lessen the Jealousy and Fights
Jealousy must be the trickiest in LDR. Actually its healthy to get jealous sometimes, cause its cute and maybe you just love the person so much that's why you feel that jealousy, but common don't make it a habit. Don't get jealous easily in every single person around your love one. Its crazy and annoying!
Then next one is lessen the fights, Being understanding and having a long patience is a key for every relationship. You also need to be a good listener in order to prevent misunderstandings and arguments that may turn into World War II. Listen to your love one to understand his/her side. Well get in a fight sometimes once in awhile its normal, but don't make it a habit like even the non sense staff can be a big issue to you. Talk about the issue in a very calm way, so that you can't say words that your going to regret for the rest your life, that situation may lead to a break up. Give your love one a peace of mind. If its possible don't let the day pass without settling the misunderstanding or issues. Tell your partner what you feel and cut your agony and pride. Be the first one to initiate a peaceful talk. Have a guts to say sorry if you think your wrong, and if the fight is getting worst and stressful be the one to say sorry first, just forget about your pride. And when your finally both okay and calm, then try to tell your partner what are you trying to convey on that particular issue in a very nice way. You must sacrifice your pride to make this relationship last.
4. Always Have Time to Talk
Set a time for each other everyday. Share your favorite moments with your partner, in that way you both feel like you still be involve in each other life without actually being there. Have time to talk even just for a minutes. Its very important for both of you to communicate, right when you wake up and before you go to bed. Try to have a first and last word for the person you love, it doesn't take much effort to say hello and goodnight.
If your a busy type of person or both of you have so much different time zone, try to schedule Skype time or Video-call whenever its possible. Make sure you don't forget it, cause there is nothing more disappointing when you both scheduled Skype time call, and then the other one is going out and go to the bar and meet some friends. Make sure you both clear about the schedule.
Try to send some intimate nude photos to each other and talk dirty sometimes. Lets face the reality sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Not only because sex is a biological need, but its also an emotional one that keep the both parties more attach to each other. Keep the flames burning.
Some other couple don't believe on this, but what's wrong if you sacrifice your 5 minutes to ask you partner how was their day or what food did he/she eat for dinner? It doesn't have to be important. I'm not saying that both of you need to talk 12 hours a day, because its not good to be possessive and over like sometimes your not able to do things that you have to do like work. I just wanted you to keep in touch with your partner. Touching base daily will make the distance between the two of you seem smaller.
5. Have a Goal
Lets face reality that no couple can be in a long distance relationship forever. So make a goal or plan with each other. Have a timeline try to estimate time apart and time together. Plan how long both of you to be apart, how often do you visit each other, what do you want to achieve on your relationship and have plan for your future cause eventually all couples need to settle down so have a plan on it.
Always have plan for a year to meet, make a date and a count down. It is so much easier to anticipate the time seem shorter. And knowing the fact that your about to see the person you love gives you hope and a goal to work for. Just make sure that your promised day is going to happen so that it cant be a disappointment to your love one.
It is very important that you have the same goals, so that both of you going to work towards a future that includes one another.
6. Define your relationship and set a limit
Invest time to define your relationship and decide what both you want this to be. Both of you need to be clear with what you expect with each other and what is the real status of your relationship. Set some rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise.
Then after defining your relationship, set a limit to keep the relationship intact. By setting limits partners will know where they stand for each other. This lead to step number one which is trusting the relationship and having trust with each other. Those things could help to have a strong foundation for your relationship to go deeper and to be more fulfilling even though your far away with each other.
7. Avoid Temptation and be loyal
Do your best to be loyal and faithful. Avoid putting yourself in a situations where you would be tempted. Don't forget about your love one even there's a lot of temptation surrounds you. Well you can be friends with someone but don't ever entertain someone who wants more than just friends or have a deep feelings for you. Always remember all the rules that both of you set and don't ever cheat even he/she's million miles away from you. Are you familiar to the quote "don't choose a temporary happiness to your lifetime happiness". Cheating or having a third party might make you happy at first because of the excitement you feel, but I swear that wont last. Don't be the reason to your love one heartache. Don't do things that could lead to a break up.
8. Do things together (apart)
Is it possible? Of course yes. eat together with the same meal while Skyping (you can do this specially in your anniversary), watch the same movies on Netflix or in any other site you want or you could play online games if you can. Just because you live far away from your love one doesn't mean you cant continue the everyday experiences that you used to do when your still together physically. Treat this like a normal relationship.
Recommend some books, TV shows, movies, music's, news and etc. to each other. By doing all this staff you get to have more topics in common to talk about. Its good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart right?
9. Send Postcard (Snail Mail)
Send some postcard or hand written love letters from time to time. I know its very old to send some staffs like that but it really works. Hand written love letters are much appreciated than to a sweet message send through Facebook. Because you exert so much effort on it by going to post office to send it and by doing that love letter in your very creative way. Hand written letter is much sweeter. Send each other random gifts or flowers for your anniversaries, valentines and any other special day.
10. Stop listening to the haters and stay positive
Advice's from people may only cause doubt in your relationship and to your partner as well. Many don't believe in this kind of relationship, there will always be people who say that long distance relationships won't work. Just remember that they are not the people who are in the relationship, and they don't determine what you can and cannot do.
Stay positive and don't focused on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship. You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Being away from your love one is not that bad as long as you see the long-distance relationship as a temporary state of you relationship, .
I know long distance relationship are not meant to be easy but see it as a opportunity or a challenge. We all know its tough and its hard for a reason but its okay. You need to overcome all the challenges to make this work. Have patience in waiting cause it worth to wait if you really love each other. Remember the saying " The good things come to those who wait".
Love is not always about being with someone, love is about a bond from heart to heart and a feeling that you really cant explain what is for someone. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life. Keep your heart open and stay strong to make it work, love is no distance and no boundaries. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship only a strong one.
Trust is the number one strategy for Long Distance Relationship. This is very important for all the relationships not only in the LDR. Before entering in LDR you are aware that both of you cant be together all the time you want and you wont know exactly what your partner doing everyday. But that is not a reason to doubt in your relationship. You just need to be positive and give your entire trust to that person. Avoid interrogating your partner every single time about having a third party, who they meet today or do they talk to somebody and if there's someone new making him/her happy. It's really annoying and irritating that sometimes may lead in to misunderstanding. We don't want that right? Just put to your mind that your partner loves you and no one ever replace you even he/she going to meet a bunch of handsome or beautiful Hollywood star. There 's no such thing as loving and trusting someone.
2. Openness and honesty
Another important thing in any relationship is openness and honesty. It serves a big part of any relationship specially on LDR. You have to be constantly open with each other. Tell your partner what you want and you don't want. You just have to tell everything like your past so that your partner wont be surprise someday when he/she finally knew. Lastly open about your schedule so that you don't have to tell your love one where do you go every single time. Be open and honest with each other. Open up about your problems and experiences. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself.
3. Lessen the Jealousy and Fights
Jealousy must be the trickiest in LDR. Actually its healthy to get jealous sometimes, cause its cute and maybe you just love the person so much that's why you feel that jealousy, but common don't make it a habit. Don't get jealous easily in every single person around your love one. Its crazy and annoying!
Then next one is lessen the fights, Being understanding and having a long patience is a key for every relationship. You also need to be a good listener in order to prevent misunderstandings and arguments that may turn into World War II. Listen to your love one to understand his/her side. Well get in a fight sometimes once in awhile its normal, but don't make it a habit like even the non sense staff can be a big issue to you. Talk about the issue in a very calm way, so that you can't say words that your going to regret for the rest your life, that situation may lead to a break up. Give your love one a peace of mind. If its possible don't let the day pass without settling the misunderstanding or issues. Tell your partner what you feel and cut your agony and pride. Be the first one to initiate a peaceful talk. Have a guts to say sorry if you think your wrong, and if the fight is getting worst and stressful be the one to say sorry first, just forget about your pride. And when your finally both okay and calm, then try to tell your partner what are you trying to convey on that particular issue in a very nice way. You must sacrifice your pride to make this relationship last.
4. Always Have Time to Talk
Set a time for each other everyday. Share your favorite moments with your partner, in that way you both feel like you still be involve in each other life without actually being there. Have time to talk even just for a minutes. Its very important for both of you to communicate, right when you wake up and before you go to bed. Try to have a first and last word for the person you love, it doesn't take much effort to say hello and goodnight.
If your a busy type of person or both of you have so much different time zone, try to schedule Skype time or Video-call whenever its possible. Make sure you don't forget it, cause there is nothing more disappointing when you both scheduled Skype time call, and then the other one is going out and go to the bar and meet some friends. Make sure you both clear about the schedule.
Try to send some intimate nude photos to each other and talk dirty sometimes. Lets face the reality sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Not only because sex is a biological need, but its also an emotional one that keep the both parties more attach to each other. Keep the flames burning.
Some other couple don't believe on this, but what's wrong if you sacrifice your 5 minutes to ask you partner how was their day or what food did he/she eat for dinner? It doesn't have to be important. I'm not saying that both of you need to talk 12 hours a day, because its not good to be possessive and over like sometimes your not able to do things that you have to do like work. I just wanted you to keep in touch with your partner. Touching base daily will make the distance between the two of you seem smaller.
5. Have a Goal
Lets face reality that no couple can be in a long distance relationship forever. So make a goal or plan with each other. Have a timeline try to estimate time apart and time together. Plan how long both of you to be apart, how often do you visit each other, what do you want to achieve on your relationship and have plan for your future cause eventually all couples need to settle down so have a plan on it.
Always have plan for a year to meet, make a date and a count down. It is so much easier to anticipate the time seem shorter. And knowing the fact that your about to see the person you love gives you hope and a goal to work for. Just make sure that your promised day is going to happen so that it cant be a disappointment to your love one.
It is very important that you have the same goals, so that both of you going to work towards a future that includes one another.
6. Define your relationship and set a limit
Invest time to define your relationship and decide what both you want this to be. Both of you need to be clear with what you expect with each other and what is the real status of your relationship. Set some rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise.
Then after defining your relationship, set a limit to keep the relationship intact. By setting limits partners will know where they stand for each other. This lead to step number one which is trusting the relationship and having trust with each other. Those things could help to have a strong foundation for your relationship to go deeper and to be more fulfilling even though your far away with each other.
7. Avoid Temptation and be loyal
Do your best to be loyal and faithful. Avoid putting yourself in a situations where you would be tempted. Don't forget about your love one even there's a lot of temptation surrounds you. Well you can be friends with someone but don't ever entertain someone who wants more than just friends or have a deep feelings for you. Always remember all the rules that both of you set and don't ever cheat even he/she's million miles away from you. Are you familiar to the quote "don't choose a temporary happiness to your lifetime happiness". Cheating or having a third party might make you happy at first because of the excitement you feel, but I swear that wont last. Don't be the reason to your love one heartache. Don't do things that could lead to a break up.
8. Do things together (apart)
Is it possible? Of course yes. eat together with the same meal while Skyping (you can do this specially in your anniversary), watch the same movies on Netflix or in any other site you want or you could play online games if you can. Just because you live far away from your love one doesn't mean you cant continue the everyday experiences that you used to do when your still together physically. Treat this like a normal relationship.
Recommend some books, TV shows, movies, music's, news and etc. to each other. By doing all this staff you get to have more topics in common to talk about. Its good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart right?
9. Send Postcard (Snail Mail)
Send some postcard or hand written love letters from time to time. I know its very old to send some staffs like that but it really works. Hand written love letters are much appreciated than to a sweet message send through Facebook. Because you exert so much effort on it by going to post office to send it and by doing that love letter in your very creative way. Hand written letter is much sweeter. Send each other random gifts or flowers for your anniversaries, valentines and any other special day.
10. Stop listening to the haters and stay positive
Advice's from people may only cause doubt in your relationship and to your partner as well. Many don't believe in this kind of relationship, there will always be people who say that long distance relationships won't work. Just remember that they are not the people who are in the relationship, and they don't determine what you can and cannot do.
Stay positive and don't focused on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship. You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Being away from your love one is not that bad as long as you see the long-distance relationship as a temporary state of you relationship, .
I know long distance relationship are not meant to be easy but see it as a opportunity or a challenge. We all know its tough and its hard for a reason but its okay. You need to overcome all the challenges to make this work. Have patience in waiting cause it worth to wait if you really love each other. Remember the saying " The good things come to those who wait".
Love is not always about being with someone, love is about a bond from heart to heart and a feeling that you really cant explain what is for someone. Simple adjustments to your attitude and lifestyle can help you keep your loved one in your life. Keep your heart open and stay strong to make it work, love is no distance and no boundaries. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship only a strong one.
